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Trans Dating / Transgender Dating

Finally a transgender folk friendly dating app made with love

Butterfly is transforming transgender dating by letting its members determine the site/app's features. Our mission is to connect singles who are looking for a serious relationship. Butterfly is not only for transgender people, every gender and every sexuality are welcome who are open to dating transgender people. We invite you to read every part of this page to get a deep understanding of Butterfly.

The best trans dating app?

Create a beautiful profile in minutes with up to 9 photos automatically arranged into a montage. Set your interests and who you would like to meet and search for people right away.

There is no swiping to get in the way of starting a conversion and as all search results are filtered on your preferences and theirs the number of results is reduced to the best possible matches.

Send a 'flutter' to someone you would like to connect with by a single tap which can quickly lead into a conversation.

Butterfly trans dating

2-Way Search
2-Way Search
We know our members don't want messages from people who don't match their gender requirements. Most apps provide a search tool with filters, Butterfly does this as well as look at all the results and compare them back. This 2-way search means you can only see and contact with folk who are a good match.
Multi-layer Gender
Multi-layer Gender
From a technical standpoint you need to group people by gender description to provide a search tool. However, we know this is too limiting so we allow our members to override the gender description shown on their profile. Users can choose any gender and gender symbol as well as default photo images.
Private
Private
Butterfly has marketing leading privacy, for example: Profiles are first name only, your GPS location is approximated before it is ever stored in our database, we ask your age and not date of birth, photos are optional and old messages and accounts are automatically removed.
Safety/Abuse
Safety/Abuse
Our private chat system detects transphobic slurs such a shemale, ladyboy and shehe. It strikes them out then replaces them with an acceptable term and warns the user that they have been offensive. Members have an easy report/block button that stops all communication with anyone they consider abusive.

Community driven

When you send feedback it will be read by the founder of Butterfly so you know it will be considered seriously. It's lovely when you tell us what you like and even better if you share what you don't like! There are not many app/sites that react as quickly as Butterfly.

Open from the start

Everyone on Butterfly is interested in dating transgender people so you don't get that difficult dilemma, do you tell a new potential partner that you're trans at the start or after a few dates. The pressure is removed, allowing you to focus on meaningful and exciting connections.

Anti-fetishisation

Many transgender dating apps and sites fetishise transgender folk and at Butterfly we feel this is degrading. It's likely you will have had first-hand experience with these sites. Many have top positions in the app stores as a result of fraudulent reviews to boost their ratings. We have campaigned for the removal of these apps until they change their product descriptions and safeguard their members. As a result we generated some excellent coverage from leading media outlets such as Thompson Reuters, but we still have a long way to go.

Media coverage

International media are also interested in our efforts to transform transgender dating, here are a selection of outlets that have featured Butterfly.

transgender dating media coverage

Comprehensive gender options

Butterfly allows users to use the following gender options:

Agender, Androgyne, Bigender, FTM, Gender Fluid, Gender Nonconforming, Gender Questioning, Gender Variant, Genderqueer, Intersex, MTF, Pangender, Transgender,, Transgender Female, Transgender Male, Transgender Person, Transsexual, Transsexual Female, Transsexual Male, Transsexual Person, Two-Spirit.

In combination with the following sexualities:

Straight, Bisexual, Gay, Lesbian, Asexuality, Demisexual, Gray-asexuality, Pansexual, Queer, Private.

Transgender first dating

Butterfly was designed as a trans dating site and app from the beginning, it has not been retro-fitted. This is critical from a deep technical standpoint which we will spare you all the fine details, but this does include:

Fluid profiles
Members can change their profile's gender or sexuality at any time allowing a single account to be used through anyones transition.

Anonymous if you wish
It's not essential to share your identity if you're not ready to do so. The only personal data required is an email address and you can even set up a new address just for dating that is not associated directly to you.

No social media sign-up
Butterfly doesn't force you to sign up through a personal social media account.

Become a valued member of Butterfly

If you like the approach of Butterfly please come and join us today and remember to make suggestions for improvements if there is anything you think could be better. It's the members that truly complete Butterfly. For a full review of Butterfly please see a comprehensive write up on Dating Advice as well as Dating News.