Trans dating safety

Keep your details under your control

Share your name and personal information at your own pace. Keep your home, workplace, daily routine and financial details out of early conversations. Explore Butterfly’s privacy controls.

Stay on the service while getting to know someone

Keeping early conversations on Butterfly means its block and report tools remain available. Be cautious if someone pressures you to move to another app immediately.

You do not owe intimate details

Your body, transition and medical history are not opening-conversation topics unless you choose them. You can decline a question without justifying yourself.

Use block and report

The language filter flags recognised offensive terms; it cannot recognise every abusive intention. Stop contact and report someone who threatens, harasses or repeatedly ignores your boundaries.

Protect pictures and messages

Another person may save or share what you send. Do not send intimate pictures under pressure, and do not forward somebody else’s images without permission.

Do not send money to a new contact

Be wary of requests for travel costs, emergencies, investments or account payments. Contact the service through its official support route if a message claims to be from staff.

Choose a public first meeting

Agree on a place where you feel comfortable and can leave easily. Arrange your own travel, keep your phone charged and tell someone you trust your plans.

Check expectations before meeting

Discuss what kind of connection each of you wants. Consent to chatting, meeting or one form of intimacy does not imply consent to anything else.

Trust a change of mind

You can end a conversation or date at any point. You do not need to establish that someone is a “chaser” before deciding their behaviour is not right for you.

Get help when you need it

Use Butterfly support for account concerns and reports. If you are in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. No dating platform can guarantee another person’s behaviour.