Transgender dating with respect built in
Attraction should feel good. Being reduced to a category, pressured for intimate details or addressed with a slur does not. Butterfly’s approach starts with the person: their name, their identity, their interests and their boundaries.
Our private messaging tool recognises offensive terms, crosses them out, adds respectful replacement wording and marks the message as edited. Members can also block and report unwanted contact.
See the language filter in action and read our guide to chasers and fetishisation.
Make room for your kind of connection
A profile that fits you
Choose your gender and sexuality, then customise how your identity appears. Your profile can change as you do. Photos are optional.
Explore profile choicesSearch that works both ways
Search by location, age and gender preferences. Butterfly also checks the other person’s gender requirements when showing who you can contact.
Find people near youSend a Flutter
The butterfly button sends a Flutter to show your interest. Get to know someone through conversation, at a pace you both enjoy.
Discover chat and messagingPrivacy is part of feeling welcome
Use a first-name profile without linking a personal social media account. Butterfly asks for your age rather than your date of birth, and approximates GPS location before storing it. You choose whether to add a photograph.
Stay on the service to talk without immediately sharing your phone number or email. Read the privacy guide.
Free to join. Clear about upgrades.
Start with a free account. An upgrade is needed for unlimited one-to-one messaging. Check the current options, prices and billing terms in the service before purchasing.
A trans dating community, not a stereotype
You may be looking for a lasting relationship, exploring a new connection or returning to dating after a break. You do not have to fit someone else’s idea of what a trans person should look like, want or disclose. Butterfly welcomes adults across genders and sexualities who share that respect.
Trans men and non-binary people belong here alongside trans women. Cisgender members are welcome too. If you are new to dating a trans woman, begin with ordinary interest in her life rather than assumptions about her body.
People also find us by searching TS dating. Whatever brought you here, use the words a person chooses for themselves. Our terminology guide explains why searches such as “shemale dating” and “tranny dating” use language Butterfly challenges, rather than labels for our members.
A founder who listens
Founder David Minns developed Butterfly with feedback from its community. A member’s concern about profile labels led to greater control over gender descriptions, symbols and default images. Community feedback also informed our offensive-language tool.
Butterfly’s open letter to Apple and Google challenged offensive dating-app marketing. Read our story and the original documents behind that position.
Media coverage of Butterfly. Press resources and contact.