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Transgender dating site

Real relationships, done seriously

Butterfly is transforming transgender dating by connecting singles who are looking for a serious relationship. Butterfly is not only for transgender people, every gender and every sexuality are welcome who are open to dating transgender people.

Open from the start
Everyone on Butterfly is interested in dating transgender people so you don't get that difficult dilemma, do you tell a new potential partner that you're trans at the start or after a few dates. The pressure is removed, allowing you to focus on meaningful and exciting connections.

Media coverage
International media are also interested in our efforts to transform transgender dating, here are a selection of outlets that have featured Butterfly.

transgender dating media coverage

Respectful trans dating
Many transgender dating apps and sites fetishise transgender folk. At Butterfly we feel this is very wrong. Our mission is to educate the cisgender users that use terms like shemale, heshe and shehe that they are not acceptable. Expect to see some software developments in the pipeline to addresses this very soon. For a full review of Butterfly please see a comprehensive write up on Dating Advice as well as Dating News.

Transgender first dating
From a technical standpoint a transgender first app requires flexibility of profile creation. A comprehensive set of gender options and sexualities with no constraints on how that can be applied. In many dating apps, once a gender has been set, it is fixed, Butterfly allows its members to change gender and sexuality options at any time. A profile can be adapted as a person goes through their own transition.

Privacy and security is important in any app but more so on an app where users may be marginalised for their gender or sexuality. Butterfly incorporates the following:

  • No forced social network sign up. Many apps only allow you access if you connect your Facebook account.
  • Profile photos are optional and users can upload and crop their face from pictures if they wish.
  • Private messages expire and are erased from the servers after 30 days. This ensures personal data is not left for years on live servers or backup archives.
  • GPS locations are approximated when stored in the database and only distances are sent back to the app.
  • Usernames have to be selected from a list of 20,000 pre-approved first names, this ensures no one can give away their full name.
  • The app doesn’t ask the user for their date of birth, it only asks their age.
  • The only personal information required when creating an account is an email address. Users can create a new email address for the purpose of online dating.
  • The design specification of the platform was to provide a dating service with the minimal amount of personal information.
Comprehensive gender options
Butterfly allows users to use the following gender options:

Agender, Androgyne, Bigender, FTM, Gender Fluid, Gender Nonconforming, Gender Questioning, Gender Variant, Genderqueer, Intersex, MTF, Pangender, Transgender,, Transgender Female, Transgender Male, Transgender Person, Transsexual, Transsexual Female, Transsexual Male, Transsexual Person, Two-Spirit.

In combination with the following sexualities:

Straight, Bisexual, Gay, Lesbian, Asexuality, Demisexual, Gray-asexuality, Pansexual, Queer, Private.