Trans dating advice, research and community
Thoughtful advice for meeting people who see the whole you.
Read Butterfly’s research-informed articles and the original stories behind our language and profile tools. We distinguish independent research, community feedback and our own product explanations.
Attraction with respect
Explore the difference between being wanted and being reduced to a fantasy.
Read the guide to chasersWords that matter
What published research and community guidance can tell us about dating language.
Explore the evidenceOur original campaign
Read David Minns’s letter challenging offensive app-store marketing.
Read the open letterLooking for practical help?
BUTTERFLY DATING · English
Why “Shemale” & “Tranny” Are Offensive Dating Terms
Why “shemale dating” and “tranny dating” are harmful labels, how to use respectful language and how Butterfly flags offensive terms in private messages.
BUTTERFLY DATING · English
Transgender Dating Profiles: Choose Your Own Identity
See how member feedback shaped Butterfly’s custom gender descriptions, symbols and profile images, with privacy and self-expression at the centre.
BUTTERFLY DATING · English
Offensive Trans Dating Language: Research & Better Practice
What research and community guidance say about offensive trans dating language, why words matter and how Butterfly’s messaging filter responds.
BUTTERFLY DATING · English
Trans Dating & Chasers: Attraction Without Fetishisation
A research-informed guide to chasers in trans dating: attraction versus objectification, boundary-setting, warning signs and Butterfly’s practical tools.
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