Private trans dating, on your terms

You decide when a new connection earns more of your trust.

For some people, dating is separate from work, family or public social media. Butterfly’s privacy features help you choose what to share while meeting people. Privacy should make room for your life, not require an explanation of it.

What Butterfly asks you to share

First name rather than a public full-name profile: Keep a surname, workplace and home address out of your introduction and messages until you have a good reason to share them.
Age rather than date of birth: The service asks your age for dating. You do not need to publish your birthday on your profile.
An email, not a compulsory social-media connection: You do not have to connect a personal social account. You can use a separate email address for dating that you control.
Optional profile photos: You can take part without adding a photograph. If you choose to upload one, consider whether the same image elsewhere could identify your social accounts.
Approximate location: Butterfly approximates GPS location before storing it. Local search does not require you to give another member your address.

Private conversation without immediate contact swapping

Talk through Butterfly rather than immediately moving to a personal phone number, email or social-media account. This keeps the service’s block and report tools within reach. Read how chat and one-to-one messaging work.

Old messages and accounts are automatically removed as part of Butterfly’s existing privacy design. That is not a guarantee that another person has not saved something. Avoid sending information or pictures you would not want copied.

What “anonymous trans dating” can and cannot mean

You can limit what other members learn about you, but a dating service is not a guarantee of complete anonymity. An account still involves information such as your email. A distinctive photo, a workplace anecdote or a very specific location can reveal more than a profile field.

Privacy features cannot control screenshots, another person’s device or what they choose to repeat. Decide what feels comfortable before a conversation becomes more personal. You do not owe a stranger information about your transition, medical history or body.

A practical privacy check before you start

Use an email address and account password that are secure and under your control.
Read your profile as a stranger would: remove details that identify your employer, home or routine.
Review what you want to say about your identity. You can customise your displayed profile.
Keep a first conversation on the service. Do not send money or financial information to a new contact.
Use block or report if someone pressures you for details or ignores a boundary.

Find the account information you need

Read the terms and privacy information, cookie information, billing and subscriptions guidance and account deletion instructions. If you are unsure how a control works, ask the team before sharing more.